Born in wartime Germany in 1940 -
I have lived a life of moving and living in one country after another. I speak four languages, and have learned to make a home wherever I lay my head. I spent my early childhood in Germany and Austria, then at age 12 I moved to England with my mother and new British step father.
My early career was in hotel management which led me to run a restaurant in southern Spain where an unexpected spiritual awakening drew me to the Intentional Spiritual and Ecological Community of Findhorn in 1975. My 25 years living there and bringing up my two children Tamsin (now 44) and Michael (now 34), changed my life, my consciousness and general sense of who I am in the universe.
A series of events and adventures eventually led me to California in 2005 where I met Judy Rickard. I was 65 and Judy 58, and surprise surprise, we fell deeply in love. After a while we both felt the other was the “love of her life”. It was then that we began to realise that being together was going to be a challenge. Karin has a British passport and no way of living permanently in the USA. Judy was still working and had no thought at that time of relocating to a part of the world where same sex partners can live together in peace and legality.
We still have the same problem; for at least half the year Karin lives in Europe. Judy took early retirement so that she can sometimes stay with Karin. They have homes and families in in both continents.
I am now 70. I has reached a time in my life when home and being settled is important to me. I feel I cannot continue to travel for ever. I want to live and enjoy the rest of my life with Judy. And there we have a big problem. What we need is a solution. I have courage and perseverance, humour and patience (maybe!!!), but sometimes these days it all fails me as I have to spend another Christmas without Judy, and missing Judy’s birthday in January again. It doesn’t feel right or fair, and I know that countless thousands of other same sex couples have the same problem.
I’m tired of it all.
I pray for a solution, I dream that the people of the USA will realise what they are doing to families, children and retired old women like Judy and me. I know things will change sometime, but will it happen in my lifetime?